But yeah. So, I was on skype last night (as usual, seeing as I, apparently, don't do anything with my life.. >___>) aaaaand we get to talking about, once again, that bullshit forsaken word: love. I don't remember how or why we started talking about it. It was a brief conversation, but still. It was weird. On the one hand, it was like "love isn't real," at least, for people our age. But then a friend and I started talking, and he said he thought he loved this one girl. Once more, I got to thinking about stuff [y'all know how I do..lol]
I don't necessarily believe that we're incapable of it. I think it all depends on the person's maturity and ability to handle it. I personally think anyone is capable of producing the feeling, they just have to know how to process it when it hits before they can officially label it "love." [for the record, I actually hate saying the word, so you'll probably only see it here no more than 5 times.]
But let me break this down first. I had a power-think moment today [because shower's make me think like crazy about everything...] and I kinda asked myself what it all even means. The first thing I thought of was how people have the tendency to say "trust" and stuff like that. I feel like trust is something that is part of an ideal relationship, not so much something that defines "love." I feel that an ideal relationship can be broken down like this:
-trust
-time
-understanding
-loyalty and honesty
-compatibility & fun
The love part is a bonus. I feel like you can like somebody enough to be in a relationship with them and do all of that ^^^ stuff, and love can come later. True, it works differently for different people, but I honestly think that there is a distinct difference between what love is and what an ideal relationship can be. I see a lot of people say that's what love is. I think those aspects could help lead affection to something more serious, but I don't think that's all there is to it. Love is an emotion, as in it's something you can't really control. You can hide it if you want to, but it's still there. And those things I mentioned before are, for the most part, things you can maneuver and mess with to make it work to your liking. With love, it is what it is. You don't have to understand it and you don't have to work on it. It's either there or it isn't.
I think that love is something that develops over time. [That being said, I certainly do not believe in "love at first sight." That's dumb.] If a considerable amount of time is spent feeling a certain way for someone, I believe that those feelings are perfectly capable of turning into something more serious. Somebody once asked me if I would walk through hell for "that person." I think that's part of it, too. Like, I think it's a willingness to do close to anything for that person. I think it's putting somebody above almost everyone else and making them a priority in your life in some way. I think it's a type of bond you can have with another person that you don't quite understand, that makes you do stupid things that are, somehow, worth it. It's little things that you make yourself do because you want that person to know just how much you really do care. It's deep. Super deep.. And that's what I don't think a lot of people understand. They use the word too loosely, and that's why I hate using it myself. I don't want to overuse it, because everyone else does. I use it when I really mean it, for the most part. Like, in a friendly way, usually. It goes on. I also think it's subjective. But I'm tired of going on about it...lol.
I think that anyone is perfectly capable of feeling this way. But I don't think we can label it as what it is until we're mature enough to handle it and not make a complete ass of ourselves to the point of destruction. Maturity comes at different ages, so I don't think it's fair to say that we "can't love" or whatever.
I guess that's all I wanted to say.
Carry on, young world.
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